There’s a Difference Between Knowing the Path and Walking the Path.

Morpheus_Neo_The Matrix - Knowing the Path_Walking the Path

In the movie The Matrix, Morpheus tells Neo that there’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path. What this basically boils down to is that knowing and doing are two totally different concepts. Knowing is passive and doing is active. Walking the path allows us grow by facing challenges and struggles along the way. It builds character. Knowing the path is more theoretical. Continue reading

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If Nothing Changes, Then Nothing Changes.

Nothing Changes - Ghost Tree - 17 Mile Drive - Monterey - California

Seems pretty obvious, right? This simple, modern saying is wisdom that should resonate and be obvious to us all, yet we don’t always recognize it. Why? Because human nature naturally wants and easier path or answer to a problem. Change requires hard work, unpredictability and unknowns and we just don’t like it. If you’re a Harry Potter fan, you’ll get this analogy. When it comes to change, we often go into Kreacher mode. In the Harry Potter stories, Kreacher doesn’t want to deviate from is path and responds simply with, “Kreacher won’t.” Continue reading

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Misery loves company.

Heisler Park Plants - Misery - California

People who are unhappy find comfort in the company of others who are unhappy, too. If you happen to be a relatively happy person, they will try to bring you down so you are more on their level of misery. Whether they do it consciously or unconsciously, these people are emotional vampires who feed off of others.

These people tend to have a victim mentality when it comes to their world view. They tend to be overly critical of others and are quick to judge people. They will misread your intentions and even facts of what happened to fit their world view because they are so committed to seeing everything in a negative light. Continue reading

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What goes around comes around.

Wave - Sunset - What Goes Around Comes Around

Ahhhh, karma. Karma is a reliable force that inevitably comes – whether good or bad. We often need to remind ourselves that what goes around comes around. And when we have been wronged in some way, it is especially difficult to just trust karma will take care of it.

We all give off energy in the world. If someone is a positive person, they radiate positive energy. If they look at things negatively, you will quickly get a sense of that energy, too. And negative energy can be draining. Continue reading

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Don’t judge a man until you’ve walked a mile in his shoes.

Chateau Montelena - California - Mile in His Shoes

It’s easy for us to look at someone else and judge what they are doing or how they are handling something. We are merely looking at a snapshot of their actions and not at what may have happened before or what they are feeling, or many other variables that led them to where they are or what they did.

When we make judgments about people, it says more about who we are than who they are. Many people feel more comfortable judging people in black and white. It’s safer that way and more defined. But humans are a million shades of grey. Continue reading

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Better the devil you know than the one you don’t.

28 days 6 hours 42 minutes 12 seconds - Devil You Know

Sometimes when we have to choose between what is known, even if it’s horrible, it is better to choose that than what you don’t know because it could be much worse. We all tend to fall into this trap at one time or another. Even if we are miserable, we will stay in a bad situation because if we make a change, it might be far worse than the situation we were in.

Known things are comfortable. They reside in our comfort zone. And it can beautiful place because we feel safe there. The problem is, nothing ever grows in that environmentContinue reading

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Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Heat - Al Pacino - Robert De Niro - Enemies Closer

You may know this famous quote from The Godfather Part II or Machiavelli, but it dates back to Sun Tzu’s The Art of War. Friends are somewhat predictable and you know their strengths and weaknesses. The idea of keeping your enemies closer is all about knowledge, information and strategy. If someone is your enemy, it’s helpful to understand what their strengths and weaknesses are, how they think and what motivates their actions, what kind of tactics they may employ against you and what their pressure points are. Continue reading

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